Like you, I love the church and am enamored with Jesus' commission to make disciples of all nations. Years ago as a university student, I was heavily involved in a college disciple-making ministry. During that time I consumed Leroy Eims' book, The Lost Art of Disciplemaking. It gave me a framework with clear objectives for becoming and making disciples - devoted followers of Christ.
To give you an idea of what I'm talking about, here is a list of some of the objectives right out of the appendix of this
book. (There are 30 listed there.)